...when we are  faced with circumstances that are uncomfortable or difficult, but we are able to see ourselves work through the challenges.  Not knowing how things are going to turn out can be nerve-racking, but we can build up a tolerance.  As actors, we often take on challenges (like auditions) that have an uncertain outcome, but if we experience some positive feedback, we are more willing to continue to audition.    We certainly, don't want to walk into a casting office and told "You'll never get the part, That was terrible, What made you think you were an actor!"   If we heard these things, we'd be reluctant to audition again and would begin to develop a negative reactive response and start declining auditions.   However if we expose ourselves to situations (big or small) where we can see ourselves work through moments of discomfort and attain a positive outcome, we can begin to develop a positive reactive response and become more willing to say "yes" to unknown situations.

...when we have an open mindset.   What mindset do you have?  1.  An entity/fixed mindset?  i.e. I have this skill/talent and that's all I have to give.  or   2. An open mindset (Carol Dweck)?  i.e. I am constantly learning and have new skills I am capable of acquiring.  There is evidence that shows men are more willing to take on new challenges even if they are feeling less than confident in their abilities, but women tend be more leery and are more likely to tackle new things if they have confidence their skill set will help them attain a positive outcome. This difference in men and women is partially attributed to how boys and girls have historically been treated differently in school (especially when it comes to math and science) - whether intentionally or unintentionally.  Did you notice a difference when you were in school?   Do you tend to have a fixed or open mindset?  Why? If you have a fixed mindset, can you think of ways to become more open minded to trying new things/saying "yes?"

When do you say "yes?"

Thank you to Dr. Art Markman and Dr. Bob Duke for making me think about why we might say "yes."


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